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Social Media and Comparison to Others

Posted by Sara Levitsky on Monday, October 27, 2014, In : Coping Tools 
"The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” ~Steve Furtick

Author Emily Holland writes about how and why we judge ourselves when we read status updates and look at photos on social media.  

She says the ways to stop the self doubt and questioning include reducing time on social media to 5-10 minutes per day; redirecting focus to real life activities like gym time and reading; and assessing negative self-worth and ...
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Tear it up

Posted by Sara Levitsky on Monday, February 10, 2014, In : Coping Tools 
Those negative thoughts or negative voices that we hear in our own heads are not doing us any favors.  They are trying to convince us that we aren't good enough, aren't smart enough, aren't strong enough - just aren't ENOUGH.  Here is a great tool for easing our minds of those thoughts.

Write down the negative thing that is bouncing around in your head on a piece of paper.  

"I'm going to fail that test."
"I did a terrible job on that presentation."
"I look so fat today."

Take the paper, look at t...
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Making difficult change requires GPS

Posted by Sara Levitsky on Saturday, March 30, 2013, In : Coping Tools 

 I love a good metaphor.  I use metaphors when talking with clients all the time.   

During the past week I have used one metaphor several times.  It relates to making change.  When trying to change our reactions or behaviors, we have to use GPS and can't rely on our auto-pilot.

You know how sometimes when you're driving a familiar route - say from work to home, or from home to the grocery store - and you end up at your destination and can't even remember the actual driving - like you drove the...
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Are you verbally abusing yourself?

Posted by Sara Levitsky on Saturday, November 17, 2012, In : Coping Tools 

Negative thinking and negative self talk are basically critical and judgmental inner dialogue.  We talk to ourselves in ways that we would NEVER talk to a friend.  And the more we do it, the more we start to believe it.  It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy.  Some examples of negative self-talk: 

"I'll never get that job I interviewed for."
"I'm the worst cook."
"No one will ever want to be in a relationship with me."

Negative thinking is often defined by 10 Cognitive Traps:


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Just breathe!

Posted by Sara Levitsky on Saturday, November 17, 2012, In : Coping Tools 
Do you have times when you feel stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, nervous, or edgy? Sometimes those feelings are so strong that they affect our ability to cope.  Some of the common symptoms of anxiety and panic include:
rapid heartbeat
shortness of breath
overactive mind - racing thoughts
difficulty sleeping

Breathing exercises are a proven way to relieve stress - they’re fast, simple, free, and can be performed by anyone, anywhere, any time.   You can do this exercise at home, at w...

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